Importance of support

I often keep thinking how few warm words, or little kind gesture can make all the difference on a bad day for me.

I know that at times people can say some things which are irritating, or annoying, when they actually mean to be sympathetic.
I also know that it is not easy to support a person who is often in pain, so I try not to show my irritation. But it really helps to know that they mean well, and so I try to be patient even when I am annoyed becasue I know how much I appreciate that they try to show they care.

Nice gestures, kindness come at time when we leats expect it and every time it happens it makes me more aware that good support from family and friends is as important as good medicines. Right word or two, can make me actually feel less pain.


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Well I certainly hope you are feeling better! Warm thoughts your way.

Thank you Migrainegirl. It also means a lot to hear your kind words.
Yes, my head is much better. I hope you are having a nice weekend.

Support--absolutely crucial. Sometimes it's not exactly words; I have supportive people in my life who aren't the most articulate about their support, but, say, today my partner (who has a job) drove me to the Doctor and waited for me most of afternoon when my Doctor was delayed...did not make a fuss about it either...

I also have been "fortunate" in a manner of speaking that several colleagues at work with whom I am friendly suffer from migraine and really do know what I'm talking about (though not always exactly what to say!) and others are very sympathetic, very aware that it's a real problem.

I think it must be unspeakable to have to work with people who finally can't quite understand why you can't take an aspirin and 'get on with it' ... or who think of it as just a neurosis. Not that I personally have anything against neurosis.

Even so, it's hard for me sometimes not to feel one I am putting people's patience to the test...

I am so glad to hear thet you get such good support at home and at work, shame about so many people with M though.

This also makes me wonder if there is something (like lighting) that makes it worse? Just a thought.

I know what you mean that it can makes us feel guilty about inconveniencing other people so often. But I also know that people who truly care don't mind. They understand, and this is the whole point, this is why their suppor really helps.

absolutely agree mini.

i learnt many yrs ago a patient only becomes as strong as their support group! now there are a few people who are exceptions to the rule but not many. we all need support to get through this life with all it throws at us.

I'd even settle for just a little more understanding at times. Support is obviously great, but the middle ground for me would be if people who don't know anything about being in constant pain would just not comment about it lol.

tdu wrote:I'd even settle for just a little more understanding at times. Support is obviously great, but the middle ground for me would be if people who don't know anything about being in constant pain would just not comment about it lol.

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