Dr's appt. today/ No pain contract!

Why is it when you're expecting a Dr's appt. to go horribly and you make sure someone goes with you, the appt. goes smoothly, but when you think it will go smoothly and you don't have anyone with you it goes down the tubes?

My appt. with the back Dr. couldn't have gone better. I go in for a spine injection of cortosone and I think lidocaine on the 11th. They are putting me to SLEEP for it! YAY! I didn't even have to ask.

I asked about the pain med's and when I told him what I was taking and how much he said "that sounds reasonable" and told me to just call in three days before I run out and they will refill it. No mention of a pain contract. I had my panties in a knot for nothing.

Thank you friends for your support while I worried about this.

Now, if I could just get past the insensitivity and the revisionist history that sister pulled on me today in regard to my M's it would be a perfect day.

Charlotte

Glad your appointment went so well. Hopefully the one with the neuro next month goes just as smoothly for you.

There always has to be a pooper in the mix...ignore the sister - she obviously doesn't understand. Just so happy for you - hopefully you can get some of your normal functioning back.

Lotte, I'm soo glad it went well!! Yay!! I was thinking of you today, and hoping it would go well. I'm so relieved and happy the dr. didn't give you any hassle about your pain meds.

What's up with your sister though? Sounds stressful! Hang in there!

Oh, it goes back to my hospitalization last year. Now I know why people in my town thought I was addicted to drugs. SHE told them.

Then she said I sat in her office at work and told her that I was being admitted because I was addicted to prescription drugs. NEVER HAPPENED! I went straight from work to see the new psychiatrist. He decided to admit me that day. I never went home, I went straight to the ward. I couldn't have sat in her office and told her I was being admitted because I didn't know I was being admitted.

I've never been addicted to anything other than cigarettes. So, I certainly wouldn't have sat in her office and told her I was addicted to prescription drugs.

Then she said that "everyone knows migraines are brought on by stress". Okay, I'm sure I have a chip on my shoulder, but that kind of me hit as "blame the victim".

Oh, and she doesn't get migraines anymore, because when she feels one coming on she drinks tequila and that gets rid of it.

She often floors me with revisionist history on our lives. I often wonder where I was when we were growing up because we couldn't have been in the same house. My Dad was an alcoholic who died from cirrhosis. I thought we lived with the same guy, but her Dad wasn't an alcoholic when were growing up.

Usually I just blow it off. But this time she's involving me and my reputation. It has me hoppin' mad.

Charlotte

I'm so glad it went so well! Whew

Now if Dr. W goes well also your in business! What a happy turn of events.

And your sister sounds mean. Find a way to pull her hair right back...lol...but harder!!

Ok no...vindication is poison. If she is going to be so awful she doesn't deserve you!! Cuz we all know the truth is that you Rock, end of story.

Wow, Charlotte, I'm so sorry. How can she make that stuff up? And actually believe it? How crazy. You don't deserve that on top of everything else you've been through.

It stinks. I would tell her, I don't know why you'd want to make things up, but I know the truth about that period of my life, and so do the people who really love me. If you really cared about me, you wouldn't make up lies.
Then I'd refuse to see her until she straightened her act out.
Of course, I might add a few choice adjectives too

I don't have much of a relationship with her anyway. And yesterday just ended whatever hope I had for one.

No, I'm not going to confront her. That is not my nature. And I've learned after 50 years of trying that I'm never going to get the approval I need her from her. Everything I do is wrong, my political beliefs, my religious beliefs, how I raise my kids.

My best friend and I are total opposites. She's a devout Christian Republican, I'm a Liberal agnostic. Someone asked her how we could be best friends and she said "We hold hands across the middle". I wish I could have that type of relationship with my sister. My folks are gone, and we don't have any other siblings, it's just us.

I've decided I will speak to her when I see her, but will keep everything on the surface, and not share any of my personal life with her. Keep it to "How's the weather".

Having a horrible day today. I have to put my old basset Freddy down. Then at the Y I was talking to someone and I offended her. I feel horrible whenever I hurt someone's feelings. I think I just learned that you don't mess with menopausal age women.

Oh, I hate the drama.

Charlotte

Charlotte,

Why is it that bad things come in groups? You certainly seem to have gotten a whammy. Sorry you have to put your dog to sleep. I can't imagine how hard it is - I haven't had to do it yet.

I can relate to the sister issue - I do similar things with my mother. I've gotten to the point where I don't tell her anything about my treatment...she doesn't "approve" of the drugs and then is at me to stop taking them. I've even stopped telling her how my day is - it's always fine, otherwise she's after me to take a triptan when it's not yet warranted. She doesn't understand any of this and has made me feel guilty about calling her when I'm in a bad spell (I often just want to talk) as apparently I've said unkind things (which I don't remember). The only times I tell her anything, is when I need help with something. So just keeping things at the surface isn't a bad way to go and is easier the more distant they are.

Hang in there - hopefully things will turn around.

Then she said that "everyone knows migraines are brought on by stress". Okay, I'm sure I have a chip on my shoulder, but that kind of me hit as "blame the victim".



ooh your sisters got me all riled up now as well!!! LOL. I hate that comment, it belittles the whole condition and implies that it is the suffers fault, some people think they are such know it all's!!!

Oh, Charlotte, I'm so sorry about Freddy. I know how hard it will be for the next few days. We've lost a few dear dogs over the years, and each was like a child, very loved. You're in my prayers.

I'm SOOOO glad your doctor appointment went good. I sincerely hope the next ones go just as well.

About your sister......I don't know what to say. My sister and I are not close (18 years difference), and it is sad and hurtful. I guess it can be attributed to dysfunctional family dynamics from our childhood...????? I so envy families where the siblings are close.

Becky

I just talked to Freddy's foster Mom. He had been in foster care with her for almost 9 months before he adopted by us. It's hard for the seniors to get adopted.

Anyway, she looked up in her records. Freddy isn't 14, he's almost 16! That's 112 in doggy years. She said that a phenomonal life span for a Basset.

She also said that the head of the organization we adopted him from says "It's better to do it too soon, rather than too late and make the dog suffer".

Charlotte

I'm sorry about Freddy Charlotte. You both will be in my thoughts today.

Aw, Charlotte, I'm sorry, you really have been hit with a whammy.

I'm doubly sorry you have such a difficult relationship with your sister. It's easy to tell someone "you should do this and this" and not as easy to actually do this and this. I'm living proof of that! I think we all are at one time or another. I'm not a confrontational person either, though I sometimes wish I could be.

I'm sorry you can't be close to her, esp. if she's your only sibling. You have an extended family here that loves you and supports you though! You can count on all of us.

I'm very sorry about Freddy. I had a rescue pet too that I adored, I was devastated when she passed away. I have her ashes as well, it's a small comfort, but it is a comfort. It's a bigger comfort to know I gave her a home when she otherwise would've been on the street or put down. You made a difference in Freddy's life, and he loved you for it. He'll always be with you.

Thank you for understanding the dynamics of my family. It sounds like many of you face similar hurdles.

Is it wrong that I feel so good knowing that Hubby, my son, my co-workers and my wonderful best buddies here on the forum are mad at her too?

Hubby et al were there when the whole thing went down and KNOW that her version isn't in any shape or form correct.

It's not just big dramatic things either. This is kind of gross, but we always used to pick the blackheads on my Dad's back. He didn't like them being there. We used to fight over who's turn it was to do it. I brought it up a couple years ago about how silly it was that we fought over it, and she said very indignantly "we NEVER did that!". It was just her and I in the room so it wasn't like she was covering up our disgusting little habit.

(oh, my theory on mad pimple poppers...I think it shows that some of us aren't as high on the evolutionary scale. We still have to "groom" our families. When my youngest is bothering me incessantly, I never have to tell him to be quiet or to leave me alone. I just have to say I want to check his back. He finds something else to do REAL fast. )

I don't remember how I coped before I found all of you. I know I felt much lonlier. Hubby even knows most of your names and where you're from just from me talking about you. I wish I could take a long road trip and visit with each one of you. Wouldn't that be a delightful journey?

Charlotte

I don't think it's wrong. You feel a bit better knowing it's not just you who finds the situation just wrong. I've been on so much lately, I can't tell if I'm making a mountain out of a molehill or if I'm letting something go that should really get my knickers in a twist. Medications seem to have that effect. And if we can't gripe about family here...where can we gripe about it? Every one here has some wacky family that drives them insane. I think that's what keeps life interesting...all the nuts in the family tree.

I haven't been here so long that I don't remember what it was like not to have everyone around. It was lonely and a bit scary. No one understood anything and it was isolating. I thank my lucky stars I found this site.

You know, great minds think alike. I'm actually cooking tonight and was thinking how nice it would be to be able to meet some of the lovely folks I've met here. At least some of the midwestern ones. I've love to meet those in the UK but the plane ride might kill me at this point.

Charlotte,

So glad your appt went so well!

Don't know why it happens that way, but it always does!

When you worry, it always goes well.

As far as your sister goes, she sounds alot like my Mother!

All of us will be sitting around the table and either myself or one of my brothers will bring up something funny she did when we were little kids and she always says it didn't happen

For example, when we were little, it seemed like Mom was on the phone alot with our neighbors.

We would do or say something we knew we shouldn't because we knew she wouldn't put the phone down to smack us, and the cord only let her go so far!

She did not think it was funny and said it never happened.

I love my Mom so much, and we were so bratty as kids.

There have been other issues though that were much more important and I truly believe that she doesn't think these things happened.

Oh well. I am so sorry that your sister said the things she did. If my Mom was doing that, we would have a problem.

Take care,

Cindy