Saturday Wedding- Can I make it?

Saturday is wedding number 2. I have so much to do and am so much pain. I wish that I could get through this week and not hurt like crazy but it isn't happening. I have to make the cake and I will do it but it is going to hurt.

My coccyx, legs and feet are so freaking painful. Ever since I got back from Texas I've had horrible body pain. I can't sit or I get really bad pain in my coccyx and nerve spasms in my pelvis. It was so bad yesterday that it almost made me vomit. I'm getting nerve spikes in my legs and feet and my feet!! OMG. they hurt so much. It's a deep ache in the bones and muscles in my feet. I'm trying to work and do the other stuff I need to but it is getting really hard.

I don't know if I can keep working. I don't know what to do.

I just need to get through the next few days and then I can crash. I am wondering what the hell I did to deserve this. It's so unfair. How do you keep yourself from despair when all you live with is constant pain in one way or another.

Alli

I understand Alli. I'm counting the minutes until. The wedding is over. SO many events leading up to the actual wedding, Im having such a hard time keeping up. On the way to the Dr. Right now for a oozing stress rash on my right hand. I'm sure people will LOVE shaking my hand.

I will make it...just not sure how. I don't know how you have made it through two weddings.

Hmmmm. You poor sweetie. Well is there a way you could your hands on a hefty dose of good painkillers?
Then indeed after the weekend you could just crash...
Maybe your dr would be willing to Rx something "just this once, for the wedding"?

Risa

Thinking of you, and hoping you can find comfort from the pain to enjoy the weekend.

Alli, how are you holding Up today?

Oh, Alli, I'm sorry.

I agree with Risa. Maybe your doctor could give you something like a good dose of valium or ativan to calm the stress for awhile to give your body a break. Or even a good dose of something to knock you out to sleep for awhile.

I hope you find something that will give you some relief so you're able to cope this week and enjoy the wedding.

Keeping you in my prayers, Alli. Hang in there.

Alli,
take a deep breath and relax for at least 10 minutes.
Tension will not help your sore muscles, nor your migraine.

You'll make it, I am sure about it!!!

You'll look great and everything will be fine!

Can't wait to see pics

Alli,

I thought you were seeing your GP for the pain in your feet.
Sounds like neuropathy or something.

Take care, I can so empathise and concur with the pain and anxiety.

Pen

I saw the doctor this morning. I am having a huge fibro flare from edema that I had in Texas. My lower body tissues are still swollen thus causing pain. And no she wouldn't give me any pain killers. Doesn't even want me using very much Aleve or Motrin.

She did give me water pills which should help me get rid of some of the water weight that I am carrying. As the water goes away, the pressure on the muscles will lessen and the pain will subside.

I do feel better than yesterday as I have been drinking green tea like mad. It still hurts to sit for long so I have to keep moving. My feet are about 50% better so that is a huge relief. That was tough to handle.

She also wants me to see the rheumatologist (sp) to see if Lyrica is really the right thing for me to be on considering the weight gain. I've gained 35lbs!!! since my last appt with her. Lyrica causes edema so I have to avoid salt and sugar and make sure I drink a lot in the heat. And wouldn't you know it... today is hot and humid. It's hardly ever humid where I live but today is a humdinger for CA.

So lots of coffee and I'll get the cakes baked and frosted. Tomorrow the fondant and decorating. Three more days and I can rest.

Alli

Charlotte,

How are you doing? Three more days until our kids are married (mine again! ) I hope your head is not giving you fits and things are going smoothly.

Alli

There you go Alli, you sound brighter, so glad.
Lyrica is a bit less thought of here than it was.
Most people dont seem to last that long on it.
Mind I don't know much about it,that is just anecdotal.

Hang in there girl.
P
PS: What does green tea do?? Got some in the cupboard.

I'm hanging in there Alli, but thankfully my Dr. DOES believe in painkillers and that's all that's getting me through. In fact last week he even gave me some Xanax to get me through.

My future DIL is a doll. I'm just having a lot of trouble keeping up with all the pre wedding activities. Really, two bachlorette parties? I'm to old and decrepit for that.

Plus my DIL mother is on a tear. I feel very sorry for the woman,in the last year and half she has lost both her parents to cancer, both her daughters got married, and her husband has been laid off. If it were me I would have crawled in to a hole long ago. Anyway, she has plenty to be mad about but no one to be mad at so she has chosen me. How I got the target on my back I have no idea.

But, I've decided that I understand how much stress she is under, so Im doing my very best to
keep my cool and not create drama. During one of the weekend bachelorette trips I was exhausted with my head and back and mentioned that I needed to get back to my room for a little bit (but that I would take a cab back to the hotel and meet up with them later) The mother said I did that because I didn't like all the attention being on the bride and wanted the attention on me. How can I respond to that!?

This past weekend at another weekend get together I wasn't spoken to at all. Hubby even
noticed and commented. We have no idea what I did this time.

She is also playing the martyr on all she has to do for the wedding. Mind you I have emailed, texted and called offering to help...but she was going on and on about how swamped she was. My DIL finally said "Then for Gods sake mother take up Charlottes offer to help you". She shut up then. I even told her I would bring my sewing machine to her house and we could set up an assembly line.

I wish I knew what I did so I can try and fix it, but I think I am just an easy target for a lot of pent-up rage and grief. If it doesn't ease up in about six months I will have a sit down with her, after all I will have to share grand babies with her, but for right now Im tip toeing around her with a lumping my throat.

It's not my nature to allow myself to be stepped on, but I also don't think two days before the wedding is the time to blow. Then I will be the bad guy.

So, my plan of attack for Saturday? Painkillers and Xanax...breakfast of champions!

Pen, Green Tea is a diuretic. It is a natural way to get rid of water weight. My doctor ok'd me drinking it along with the water pills. It's helping but not enough.

Charlotte,
What a pain to be dealing with that right before the wedding. I think you are exactly right, she wants some attention, is angry and just doesn't have a better target. How sad. I hope that she mellows after the wedding.

Xanax will help you keep your cool! Luckily my DIL's mother is wonderful. We are all getting along so well. They made us feel so welcome in their home. I know sharing grandbabies will be great.

My mom is upset that one of my sisters is not invited to the wedding. Neither Chris nor I want her there as she loves to create drama and neither one of us want his wedding ruined by a scene. None of the family except my mother have spoken to her in almost over three years after the last big blowout on Easter. My brother and my mother are coming down but no one is saying anything to her. She doesn't even know about the wedding. I keep having to clarify my position to my Mom but she still wishes that we had invited her on the off chance that she'd behave. But based on 48 years of experience, chances are she'd find something to freak out about.

That is the only bit of drama that we've had to deal with which doesn't even compare. But your DIL's mother sounds like how my sister would behave, so I am glad that I have the option of not inviting her. Can't do that to the DIL's mother.

hang in there--- three more days ( really 2.5) and party time!! Make sure you have some tissues. It will get emotional.

I took Monday and Tuesday off so Ill have three whole days to recoup. I thought about going in to work Tuesday, but today my back has been aching so badly I decided nope, Im taking one more day of doing absolutely nothing!

I've never had any problems with my DILs mother in the eight years they've dated. We will never be best friends, she is a very opinionated woman who knows more than anyone else, but we've always been cordial so Im not understanding the animosity. And we all know Im perfect and would NEVER rub anyone the wrong way

Hang in there ladies. You are both in the homestretch and then they are married.

Alli - hope the swelling goes down and the pain subsides for you. I know it's been a tough couple of weeks for you. Hope you have been able to get all done that you've needed to. It's always a tough call to not invite certain family members. When the time comes for me I have the same dilemmas - certain family members would make the whole day very uncomfortable and are on my black list. This is about your son and he should be able to invite whomever he wants and not deal with drama. Hang in there.

Charlotte - I feel for you. You've done nothing to get a target painted on you. When I was about to get married several years ago, my FMIL was a lot like this woman only her kids wouldn't tell her to stuff a sock in it. She was always right and knew EVERYTHING. If you crossed her the claws came out. Just be nice as pie to her and kill her with kindness. I know it's hard but a reaction is what she's after.

I'm on the homestretch! I baked the cakes last night and will decorate today. But I forgot to add the baking soda and vinegar one of the Red Velvet cakes so I have to redo that tier. Arrgh!! Migraine head! Anyone want a hockey puck cake?

No worries though. I can bake it and let is cool while I do the other tiers.

Well at least you discovered it before you finished it. You'd be surprised at how often I forget to grease pans then wonder why it won't come out.

Andyou have a plan to deal with it.

Raining..ugh! Glad it's not an outside wedding. But it's keeping it at a comfortable 72 degrees.

Trying to keep my cool. Everything Is irritating me. Oh well, be over by the end of the day.

Deep breath Charlotte.

It will soon be over and hopefully your body will cooperate for the rest of the day.

Raining here too.....good advice, deep breath.

What about Alli, did she make it?